Property and Probate

Dear Len & Rosie,

My adopted father built his own home on property in Glen Ellen in 1964. My mother and I contributed substantial labor towards building up the home, road and ranch. My dad always said, "This will all be yours one day. You aren't just working for me, you're working for yourself."

My mom passed away ten years ago and since then my dad got into a relationship with one of her best friends as his significant live-in lover. My dad feels that he owes her something for living with him and caring for the place for the past nine years.

Dad says he wants her to be able to live there after he dies for as long as she wants to or unless she remarries. I have no problem with this plan but as far as I know he has not made a will to this effect. He is dragging his feet on legal paperwork.

I am afraid that when he dies, she will claim some sort of squatter's rights and try to take the place away from me or run up extreme maintenance costs that I can't cover, forcing me to sell the home. What can I do to guarantee that I will get the house and land as I was promised all these years?

Richard

What happens when someone dies during a divorce?

Dear Len & Rosie,

My father died of a heart attack at the age of 52. He was in the process of getting divorced from his second wife, Meg. During their two year marriage, Meg completely ignored him and was interested only in his money. My father knew he’d made a mistake. He reassured me that he would see to it that his property would go to me and my sister, not Meg. Last week she called and asked if I would send her a copy of my father’s will. She said her attorney wanted to have a look at it. So far, I haven’t found a will. I’m not sure what to tell her. I thought she was entitled to nothing because she and my father were legally separated. Do I have a problem?

Anna

Dear Anna,

You could have a big problem if your father died without a will or trust. When that happens, it’s called dying intestate, and his estate will pass to his legal heirs by intestate succession. Meg, as the surviving spouse, would inherit all of your father’s community property and one-third of his separate property. You and your sister will inherit the rest. It doesn’t matter that Meg and your father were legally separated; they were still married for estate purposes because the divorce was not final.

Meg’s attorney probably explained to her that, if your father had no will or trust, she would inherit as his surviving spouse - and would likely receive a lot more than she would have gotten from the divorce. And even if your father had a will or trust, if it was executed before he married Meg and makes no mention of her, she is still entitled to an intestate share of his estate as an “omitted spouse.” That’s why it’s very important to update your estate plan when you get married or if you file for divorce.

It’s possible that your father and Meg had a prenuptial agreement in which each of them waived their rights to the other’s estate. In many second marriages where there are children from a prior marriage, a prenuptial agreement is a great idea and can save a lot of grief and misunderstanding down the road. They may not be very romantic, but they can help protect a child’s inheritance.

Contact your father’s divorce attorney and your father’s friends. Find out if he ever visited an estate planning attorney. If he did, call that attorney; he or she will have a record of the visit and the documents that were prepared. Hopefully, you will find something. If not, you will learn the hard way that your father’s good intentions don’t count because they weren’t in writing.

Len & Rosie